Our need and ability to interact with other people, and to come together as a communal force, has always been Homo sapiens’ most cutting-edge advantage. Its superpower.

Even more effective than opposable thumbs, or being able to walk upright.

I am labelling this superpower Love.

Love enables us, as couples, families, clubs, tribes, nations, as a specie, and in groups such as ours looking to break free from the chains of addiction.

One doesn’t need to be a Christian to believe in the value of Love, but I do like The Bible’s list of Love’s identifying features:

  • Patient
  • Kind
  • Doesn’t envy
  • Doesn’t boast
  • Isn’t proud
  • Isn’t rude
  • Isn’t self-seeking
  • Not easily angered
  • Doesn’t keep a record of wrongs
  • Doesn’t delight in bad shit
  • Rejoices in good shit
  • Protects
  • Trusts
  • Hopes
  • Perseveres


This process has required that I aim Love inward.

I have needed to be very kind and caring with myself.

I still do.

To have broken free of the bonds of the alcohol trap, I will have embraced much, if not all, of this list at some point, and to remain free I am consciously attempting to take up a life stance reflective of its core values.

If you are in recovery, you will have too; I immediately feel a kindred spirit with you.

Well done us!


Love is in play.

Each new sober author I discover.

Each new subscriber to this blog.

Each new sober person I meet or hear of.

Each new day I live alcohol-free.

… Reminds me that I am part of something bigger and lovely.

I am so happy to be here today, Day 47.

I celebrate with all who are here and all those who have yet to come.


Love is a choice to choose, 

a stance to take, 

a muscle to be flexed, 

a sword to be wielded,

A life-line to be thrown,

A harvest to be gathered,


and a place of health, wealth and beauty, wherein I want to make my home.